TED演讲：如何改变现状，过上想要的人生！
你是否曾有被现实困住的感觉？生活不尽人意，想要改变却不知道该如何开始？今天的演讲相信会给你一些启发！
美国畅销书作家Daniel Ally在21岁前，住在地下室、做过四十多份工作都被辞退了，还有多年的吸毒史。有一天，他意识到这样的生活不能再继续了，于是他开始努力改变现状，并在24岁那年成为百万富翁。
经过切身实践，他总结出了三条建议。这三条建议帮助他实现了人生的逆袭，相信也能让你受益良多！
最后，你要学会相信自己。所有改变的前提是，相信自己能成为想成为的样子，一起努力吧！
Daniel Ally
企业家，美国畅销书作家，24岁时白手起家成为百万富翁。
Today I want to talk with you about a subject that many people have been talking about for a very long time. And that subject is called “success”. Success means different things to different people, but what is success might mean to me is different than what it may mean to you.
今天我想和大家谈一个许多人已经谈论很长时间的话题 ：成功。成功的定义因人而异，成功于我的定义可能与你不同。
And what it means to you is different than what it means to kindergartner, who is just trying to get a star on his homework assignment. Or perhaps to a housewife, who has been trying to get her five kids in bed by nine o'clock PM. Or maybe even a corporate executive who's been working for his or her corporation for 20-plus years, and only wants to become the CEO of their organization.
你对它的定义，又与一个试图在家庭作业中获得一颗星的幼儿园小朋友不同，亦不同于想在晚上九点把五个孩子都哄睡的家庭主妇，或是一个在某企业辞职后，20年一心想成为CEO的企业高管。
As you can tell, we have so many different definitions of this word success, but the greatest definition I can give you today is this, “success is all about self-expression.”
如上所说，我们对成功有太多不同的定义了。但是我今天可以给大家最棒的定义就是，成功的关键在于自我表达。
It's about being who you want to be. Doing what you want to do, going where you want to go, because when it comes to your life, you are the boss, and you have a choice. In fact, you are who you are today, because of all the choices that you've made in your whole entire life.
它是关于成为你想成为的人，做你想做的事情，去你想去的地方。因为说到你的生活，你是老大，你有选择权。事实上，现在的你，就是你在一生中所做的所有选择后的你。
But as we are going up we have a lot of people who try to tell us how to make these choices; our parents, our teachers, our bosses, our friends, even our neighbors, they try to tell us how to live our lives, what we should do, where we should go, how we should walk, how we should talk, but my question for you, is this, --If you're trying to be what other people want you to be, Then, who will be you?--
但是随着我们长大，有很多人试图告诉我们如何做出这些选择。我们的父母，老师，朋友，甚至邻居都会给我们说，他们试图告诉我们如何生活，我们应该做什么，我们应该去哪里，如何走路，如何说话。但我想问你的问题是，如果你想成为别人想要的，那么谁会成为你呢？
So the key to success is to stop conforming to other people's expectations, and start performing to your own level of expectations. Is to believe in yourself, is to know that what you want will eventually come to fruition, as long as you believe it.
所以成功的关键是停止遵循别人的期望，开始按照自己的期望去做。相信你自己，要知道你想要的最终都会实现，只要你相信。
You see, you have to have faith, and faith is knowing that what you want will eventually come to fruition as long as you believe it. If you feed your faith, you'll find often times that your fears will starve to death, because if you believe in yourself, everyone else in the world will believe in you.
你必须要有信心，信心就是，只要你相信，你想要的，最终就会实现。如果你经常饲喂你的信念，你会发现你的恐惧就会被饿死。因为你相信你自己。世上的任何其他人也终会相信你。
Fortunately, for a long time, I didn't quite believe myself, actually, I used to be the kind of person that mothers would often warn their daughters about. And fathers would tell their sons, if you keep doing what Daniel Ally is doing, you can going to end up where Daniel Ally is going.
幸运的是，很久以来，我都不太相信自己。其实我以前是那种，母亲经常警告女儿，父亲会告诉他们的儿子，如果你继续做丹尼尔做的事情，你就会走到丹尼尔要去的地方。
Now, they had some credence to what they're saying, because as you can imagine, your reputation really is your best advertisement. I really didn't have a good reputation, because I was living so far below my potential, I was actually living in my mother's basement. But the age of twenty one, I had worked over forty different jobs. I got fired from more jobs and more people had.
他们很相信他们说的话，因为你可以想象，你的声誉就是你最好的广告。我没有很好的声誉，因为我的生活远低于我的潜力，我当时住在我妈妈的地下室，在我21岁的时候，我已经做过了40多份不同的工作，我被解雇的工作比很多人都多。
In high school, I graduated second to last, the last guy; well, he was in jail. I was on drugs for eight years, and I was confused. I was broke, busted, and disgusted, but I knew that I wanted to change; the only problem was that I didn't know how. Yeah
高中毕业，我排倒数第二，至于倒数第一，好吧，他在监狱。我吸了八年毒，那时候我觉得很迷茫，那时候的我心神俱碎，我知道我想要改变，唯一的问题我不知道怎么去改变。
Can I see show of hands if you ever been in a situation where you wanted to change, but you just didn't know what to do. Well, we all have been there, maybe we're there right now.
如果您曾经想要改变，但是你不知道该怎么办，请举下你们的手，让我看看。我们都有过那样的经历，也许现在就处于那样的时期。
I discovered that there are only three ways that I can make change in my life, three ideas I wanted to share with you today that can absolutely revolutionize your life from today. I know these steps work because I've been able to do them myself, but the age of twenty four, I became a self-made millionaire.
我发现只有三种方法可以改变我的生活，今天我想要和大家分享这三个想法，绝对可以彻底改变你今天的生活。我知道这些步骤是可行的，因为我曾经就是这么做的。24岁时，我成了白手起家的百万富翁。
I've been able to write three books and travel to dozens of countries. I now reach millions of people with my work. I believe that these three key principles can change your life, no matter how you define success, whether you want to live to age one hundred or even have a dozen kids, or just have a house on the mountaintop somewhere no one knows about.
我已经写了三本书，并旅行过几十个国家，我现在的作品能触及数百万人，我相信这三个关键原则可以改变你的生活，无论你如何定义成功，无论你想活到100岁，或是想有十几个孩子，或是在无人知晓的山顶拥有一所房子。
These three key principles will help you to realize the success in your life.
这三个关键原则，将帮助您实现您生活中的成功。
The first one is to read more books. You know, all the books in the world can help us to solve all the problems in the world. But the truth is that we don't have to read all the books in the world, because we don't have all the problems in the world.
第一个是阅读更多的书。世界上所有的书都可以帮助我们解决世界上所有的问题，但是我们不必阅读世界上所有的书，因为我们不会有世界上所有的问题。
But we do have to read the books that help us to solve our problems, so, for instance, if you want to learn about money, you better be reading books that talk about money; or if you want to learn how to manage your relationships or to become a better communicator, there's a lot of books on that.
但我们必须阅读帮助我们解决问题的书籍。所以你如果你想了解钱，你最好是看关于钱的书。或者如果你想学习如何处理关系，或者成为一个更好的沟通者，也有很多关于这些方面的书。
What I am saying basically is there are libraries that are paved with gold, and library cards are free. Books are the tools that release the heavens of your mind. And leaders are readers. If you want to succeed, you have to read. Most people in the world read about one book every single year, that book, I would suppose, would be Facebook.
书中自有黄金屋，借阅图书大多还都是免费的。书籍是释放你心灵天赋的工具。领导者都是阅读者，如果你想成功，你就得读书。世界上大多数人每一年读一本书，那本书我想会是Facebook。
And before people even get up and do their things, before they drink their coffee read their paper, they read Facebook. But the truth is that if you study miscellaneous things, you get miscellaneous results; you become what you study, what you study, and where is it taking you?
在人们起床和做事之前，在他们喝咖啡或读报之前，他们看Facebook。但事实是，如果你学习了各种各样的东西，你会得到各种各样的结果。你会成为你所学习的产物，那么你应该学什么？你的所学会带你去到哪里？
A lot of people come up to me, and they say, “Daniel, I don't really have time to read. I have kids, I've work, I'm student. I already have so many textbooks and I doing so many things, I'm too busy.” but If you don't have ten minutes a day, you're basically saying you don't have a life.
很多人跑来问我，他们说，丹尼尔，我真的没有时间阅读，我有孩子，我有工作，我是学生，我已经有这么多的教科书，我在做这么多事情，我太忙了。但如果你每天连十分钟的时间都没有，基本上可以说你连最起码的生活都没有。
We all have time to read, we all have time to pick up a good book and read for ourselves so that we can learn. Look! if you read ten minutes a day, for thirty straight days, that's one book a month.
我们都有时间去阅读。我们都有时间去拿起一本书读一下。而且阅读本身也是为了提高我们自己。看，如果你每天读十分钟，连续30天，那你就是一个月阅读了一本书。
One book a month, and in twelve months, is twelve books a year. You can do in one year what most people do in five years, talk about not having time. We all have time to read, remember, readers are leaders, and the only way you can succeed is if you read.
每月一本，12个月，就是一年12本书，你可以在一年内做大多数人在五年内做的事情，不要谈论没有时间。我们都有时间阅读，记住阅读者是领导者，而你唯一可以成功的方式就是阅读。
My second suggestion is about getting around the best individuals you can.
第二个建议，尽可能找到那些对你帮助的人。
We’re the sum total of five people in which we surround ourselves with the most. we earn the same income, we go to the same places, we do the same things, we think the same thoughts, and if you were to look at your five closest friends, you've got to ask yourself this one question. “Who are my leaders, and where are they taking me?”
我们是身边最亲密的五个人的“总和”，我们挣取同样的收入，我们去同一个地方，我们做同样的事情，我们有着同样的想法，如果你去观察你最亲密的五个朋友，你一定要问自己这个问题：谁是我的领导人，他们会把我引向何处？
In other words, are my leaders taking me to the place that I would most likely want to be?’ If the answer is no, then you need new leaders, you need people who are inspiring, people that can help you, lift you up to the goals that transcend your own possibility and your thinking. You have to realize your goals, and you can only do that by getting around the right people.
换言之，我的领导带我到我最想要去的地方了吗？如果答案不是，那么，你需要换一个新的领导，你需要鼓舞人心的人，能够帮助你的人，让你达到超越自己的可能性和思维的目标的人。你必须实现你的目标，你只能靠找到身边对的那个人来帮你实现目标。
Now many of us have what I like to call ‘default friends’, and default friends are basically people that we see around the neighborhood. People at the grocery store, the gym, the mall, at church, at work, everywhere we go, these are people that we naturally be friend, as we start to gain their trust and acceptance.
我们中很多人都有我所谓的默认朋友，默认的朋友基本上是我们周围看到的人。杂货店、健身房、购物中心、教堂工作中等所有我们去到的地方的人，当我们开始获得他们的信任和被他们所接受，我们自然而然就成为了朋友。
What tends to happen is, if you're highly ambitious person, and you have really high goals. A lot of these people can help you reach your goals. So you have to look outside, you have to search for people.
如果你是一个雄心勃勃的人，且有很高的目标。这些人当中有很多人可以帮助你达到你的目标。所以你必须出门去看看，你必须去找到他们。
I give an example, I had a friend, hi name was John, and he was actually a plumber, and his father and him had a pretty successful business. At least it seemed like it. So I asked John, ‘ I want to start a business, what exactly do you think I should do?’
我举一个例子，我有一个朋友，他的名字叫约翰，他是个水暖工，他的父亲和他有个很成功的事业，至少看起来是这样的。所以我问他，我想创业，你觉得我该怎么做？
John pulled me to the corner, he said-- Daniel, I don't think you want to start a business, ninety eight percent of businesses fail within the first three years-- then he proceeded to tell me about all the reasons why I couldn't do it, and why it won't work.
约翰把我拉到角落里说，丹尼尔，我不认为你真的想创业，98%的企业在头三年里倒闭了。然后他继续告诉我，我不能做的原因，会失败的原因。
He told me how it was so hard working over one hundred hours a week, how hard it was to manage payroll, and why the recession was holding him back from getting more clients.
他告诉我，每周工作时间超过100小时，管理财务是多么的困难，还有，为什么经济衰退时他不再能得到更多的客户。
As he told me this, I became a little discouraged, a little dejected. And I went home, and I thought about it. When I get to my journal, I usually reflect, and I wrote down in my journal, ‘the ninety eight percent of statistics are made up.’ including that one.
当听到他告诉我这些，我变得有些气馁，我回到家开始去思考这个问题，当我写日记的时候，我常反思自己，那时候我在日记里写了这样一句话，98%的统计数字都是编造的，包括他给我说的这个。
You have to realize that no one's opinion of you can become your reality. And in order to change your reality, you’ve to change your mentality and the people you surround yourself with. You have to get yourself around people who can help you, people are smarter than you, people who have gone further than you; people who know what you need to do to get to that next level.
你必须意识到，没有任何人对你的看法可以成为你的现实。为了改变现实，你必须改变自己的心态，和你周围的人。你必须让自己置身于那些有能力帮你实现目标的人，那些比你聪明的人，那些比你走得更远的人，那些知道你需要做什么才能达到下一个层次的人。
The truth is that the people that you're looking for are also looking for you. But you have to find them. Sometimes, we surround ourselves with strangers and family members who tell us what we can't do, they limit us.
事实上你正在寻找的人也在寻找你，但你必须主动找到他们。有时候，我们周围的那些陌生人和家人会告诉我们，我们做不到，他们限制了我们。
and a lot of people have the right intentions, but often times, they provide the wrong directions. In other words, they want to help us, but they just don't know how. So get yourself around people who can.
很多人其实都是好意，但往往他们传达给你的是错误的方向。换句话说，他们想帮助我们，但他们不知道如何去做，所以去找那些有能力的人。
A lot of people ask me, ‘Daniel, how do you find these people?’ it's easy! If you follow step one, which is to read more books, you'll find that in the back of the book there's about the ‘About the Author’ section.
很多人问我，丹尼尔，你是怎么找到这些人的。很简单，如果遵循了建议一，去读更多的书，你会发现在书的后面，有关于作者的部分。
what I used to do is I used to reach out to the authors, thankfully, we live in a new millennium which allows us to get on their social media, their websites, so we can have a conversation with them, we can change by actually understanding what it is that they teach, and if we ask enough questions, we can make great progress in our lives.
我以前做的就是，去联系书后面的作者。值得庆幸的是，我们生活在一个新的千年，让我们可以通过社交媒体，他们的网站，便捷地和他们交谈，我们可以通过真正理解他们传达的内容，来获得改变。如果我们问足够多的问题，我们就可以在我们生活中取得巨大的进步。
Remember that people you're looking for are also looking for you, so get yourself around those people.
记住，你正在寻找的人也在寻找你，所以要努力找到他们并和他们在一起。
My last and final suggestion is to set higher goals, because goals make you stretch, they help you to become more of who you are. And in this enormity of conformity, so many people don't know how set goals.
我最后的建议是设定更高的目标。因为目标让你成长，会帮助你成为你想成为的人。在这种巨大的一致性中，很多人不知道如何设定目标。
they get confused about the process, a lot of people use New Year's resolutions, but the problem with New Year's resolutions is that the person often tries to do too much, too fast.
他们对这个过程感到困惑，很多人喜欢做新年计划。但这样做的问题是，这些人，只是想在短期内达到很大的效果。
Let’s say Doug wants to stop smoking. On December 31th, he says, ‘I'm done.’ January 1th, ‘I'm clean, never again.’ he hasn't created a plan of action to achieve his goals, and therefore, it is unreasonable.
比如说，道格想戒烟，12月31号，他说OK，我戒烟了。1月1号，他说，我再也不抽烟了。他没有制定一个行动计划来实现他的目标，因此这是不合理的。
Bucket list is something else that people do, and usually, when someone creates a bucket list, they're giving themselves too much time. There’s no urgency, and most of the time, they don’t write their goals down, so, ‘what do you suggest?’
愿望清单是很多人都会做的一件事情。通常当有人创建一个愿望清单的时候，他们给自己太多的时间，没有紧迫性，大多时候他们不会把目标写下来。你们可能问我，你说怎么做。
what I do suggest for you is to write your goals down. I believe that a dull pencil is better than a sharp mind, and to impress your subconscious mind, you have to write your goals down, so that you can hold this steadfastly to who you are.
我所建议的是把你的目标写下来。我相信好记性不如烂笔头，为了给你的潜意识留下深刻的印象，你必须写下你的目标，这样你才能坚定地成为自己想要成为的样子。
I have this method I teach all around the world, that’s called, ‘the twenty idea method’, and basically, what you do, is you select one overarching goal that you would like to accomplish, analyze twenty ideas that corresponds with that particular goal.
我到世界各地都教过这个方法，我把它称为“20个点子”，基本上，你所做的，就是选择一个你想完成的总体目标，然后找20个与这个特定目标相对应的想法。
let's say, for instance, you want to become a better public speaker, what are some things you can do ?well, you could watch TED talks, like you are now, you can practice your speech, you can look in the mirror to challenge yourself, you can read the dictionary every day.
比如说你想成为一个更好的公众演讲者。你能做些什么？那么你可以看TED演讲，就像你现在一样；你可以练习你的演讲，看着镜子挑战自己。你可以每天读字典。
There are so many things you can do, but could I come up with twenty ideas? Answers is ‘yes, I can come up with a hundred, if I wanted to’. Imagine if you did this in every area in your life: financially, for promotions, for your family, and you wrote your goals on every day. You'd be able to accomplish so many things in your life.
有很多事情你可以做，但我能想出20个主意吗？答案：是的，只要我想，我可以想出100。想象一下，如果你在你生活中的每一个领域都这样做，经济上、为了升职，为了你的家庭，每天都写下你的目标，你将能够在你的生活中完成许多事情。
We have everything we need in order to succeed, but we have to take the things that we have to get more of the things that we want; from the cars we drive, to the clothes we wear, to the food that we eat, and the people that we meet. In this depository of diversity. We have everything we need in order to succeed. But we have to believe.我们拥有成功所需的一切，但我们要尽可能的付出才能得到我们想要的东西。从我们开的车，到我们穿的衣服，我们吃的食物，以及我们遇见的人，在这样多元化的宝库中，我们拥有成功所需的一切，但我们必须相信自己。
When you believe in yourself, you'll find that everyone in the world will believe in you. And you also have to think big. When you think big, you'll do big, and you'll win big.当你相信自己时，你会发现，世界上每个人都会相信你。同时你必须理想远大，当你胸怀大志时，你就会做大事，赢得更大。
Well, B-I-G is actually the three ideas I want to share with you today; B-- the books that you read, I--the individuals that you meet, and G-- the goals you set for yourself. Books, individuals, and goals: that's all you need to accomplish success, because when you think big, that you'll do big, and you will win big, my friends, thank you.那么，B-I-G其实就是我今天想和大家分享的三个方法。B—你看的书，I—你遇到的人，G—你给自己设定的目标。书籍，人际和目标，这是你成功所必需的。因为当你有远大理想时，你就会做大事，如此，朋友们，你就会取得巨大成功。谢谢！
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